UrbanTurbanGuy

I'm just a common person, but I'll offer you my crude understanding.

2 simple ideas: authenticity and serendipity

This is a short post, but first, a shorter rant:

<begin Rant> The “2″ in the title is in protest against all the “10 things, 8 points & 5 best” blog-posts out there. Research might say something else, but sometimes we need to forgo them “clicks” for the sake of some sanity. <end Rant>

Now, coming to the point. Much has been said about authenticity and how it is the new social media mantra, basically reiterating the old saying:

for every lie you will need 99 more to cover up

Talking from the perspective of personal online presence, we need to be authentic not because we can be caught cheating, but because the world knows us by what we put out there. Every word we publish is like a mental hook for people to latch on to and slot us. If we have certain passions and perspectives, we should express them as they are, instead of searching for the most politically correct and professionally sterilized form. These hooks or magnets will attract like minded individuals. I know, it’s obvious, but what is not obvious is how much stuff we say just because it’s cool to say it, would make us look intelligent or simply because the popular guy said it too.

Very few of us can really say whatever we are engaged in right now is exactly what we have always dreamed to do. Leaving the right hooks around increases the chances of being roped into the right kind of activity, community or job. In other words it increases the odds of serendipity.

So my new mantra is:

Be authentic, leave a few breadcrumbs around, leave the rest to serendipity.

< disclaimer: This might not work if you want to run for President, one day; but is awesome for the rest of us.  >

10 comments
brisbane seo
brisbane seo

Her blog, bell'alimento {Italian for beautiful food} focuses on seasonal, simple and satisfying authentic Italian recipes. She currently lives in North Carolina with her husband and their three energetic children, with hopes of one day returning to the

Anand
Anand

Nice post Gagan! I particularly like the idea of 'roping' in ... I'm thinking this is like making a public commitment to something and then having to follow through .

christian
christian

right on!i had an intriguing conversation a few weeks ago with the CEO of a company who felt that much of business education and practice has created a culture that is about "swinging for the fences" - a baseball metaphor for ONLY trying to go for the big win all the time. As a result, according to him, people are too careful about what they put out into the world and when (products, communications, etc). The biggest missed opportunities, he said, are the serendipitous discoveries that can happen when a person or a company actively and frequently and authentically participates, rather than always trying to wait, plan and then finally spring their fully-formed self on an unsuspecting world.

lindagal2
lindagal2

Umairqayyum's point about balance is well-taken though, and not just for politicians. The caveat to all this must be to *think* about what one writes in any sort of social media (which surprisingly few people take the time to do) because this generation is finding out the hard way that words can define you in a negative way as well as an "authentic" way. Those breadcrumbs can lead potential employers, admissions officers, and even attorneys (gulp) to us, showcasing both good and bad for a very long time. As those words are bouncing around the social media echo chamber, we lose control of their context and may not be able to disassociate ourselves from them. So while we don't necessarily need to hide behind political correctness, we also must give thought to that 140-character bon mot that seemed so funny after a few beers the night before, or the Facebook pics that show a bit *too* much authenticity. We need a balance between PC pablum and uncensored authenticity. However, within those parameters, I agree that if we hide too much of ourselves, we make ourselves invisible to opportunity (or serendipity if you will). If one defines serendipity as stumbling upon something fortunate yet unexpected, it's always good to make sure one is alert, thoughtful and ready to take advantage of what falls in our path. Maybe bring a swiss army knife along. ;)

umairqayyum
umairqayyum

I don't think everyone has the ability to be (or is inherently) serendipitous. Authenticity has always been a virtue for the ones. Being politically correct has its time and place, and IMHO, it would be unwise not to look for a balanced way to express your 'true' opinions in a politically correct way.

UrbanTurbanGuy
UrbanTurbanGuy

Even internally in companies, a lot of issues are solved around the water cooler, coffee table or just that random chat in the hallway. ( the conference rooms have their place :), though. )

UrbanTurbanGuy
UrbanTurbanGuy

On political correctness I partially agree with you, thats why the disclaimer at the bottom of the post. But on serendipity, I dont. It is not something we are born with - it just happens; hence the definition (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serendipity). What I am trying to convey is that we can still try to increase the probabilistic chance of "serendipitous" stuff happening.

lindagal2
lindagal2

PS ... I absolutely agree we can "try to increase the probabilistic chance of 'serendipitous' stuff happening." I think there's a lot to putting out what you want to get back, in attitude, in work ethic, in charity, what have you. So the more you put out there (and the more prepared you are to take advantage of what comes your way), the greater the odds of serendipity occurring. It's all numbers, baby!

umairqayyum
umairqayyum

My bad :). I should have researched the definition on wikipedia.